Call me a girl cause that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling (and acting) lately!
I’m not the mushy or emotional type. I’m not one of those types who feels the need for constant affection. I don’t like people crowding my space. I don’t feel it necessary to say ‘I love you’s’ all day long. In fact as friendly and as warm as I come across, that’s all you’re going to get from me.
But in the last week or so, I’ve been feeling slightly out of sorts and a little out of control. I’ve been feeling really insecure and “girlie”. Yuck! I don’t know how to put it, but it’s as if I need constant reassurance, especially from KK.
Being the typical quiet, introvert engineer that he is, he hasn’t exactly picked up on my insecurities which has added to my niggliness and frustrated me even more!
It was only after confiding in some of my girlfriends that I made a list of some of the valuable advice they gave me:
- KK cannot read my mind. I need to over-communicate my feelings and possibly tell him what it is I’d like him to do. He will never guess.
- KK will never use the words I am expecting him to use. More often than not, if I am expecting him to act in a certain way over something, he won’t.
- Fact: KK loves me. All other insecurities, unless based on fact, should be dismissed.
- It’s okay for me to feel needy. I should not be afraid to sometimes admit that I’d like an extra cuddle after a stressful day.
The best piece of advice was from one of my girlfriends who said, “Stop beating yourself up about it. Trust me, it’s absolutely normal to feel like this every now and then. We’re all the same! We’re woman! ”
Yeah, I guess.
bwahahaha! I actually said to D last night “I am no longer sharing my opinions with you”
We are having a moment at the moment. I am feeling needy and he doesnt understand so doesnt offer the support I need! LOL so for now I am having NO opinions on anything!
We all feel like this sometimes and it would be so easy if the men can read our minds and no exactly what to day and do to make us feel better but they cannot – they are just men after all. But I agree and learnt the hard way – rather express what you are feeling. It makes the situation win-win for all of us.
Hehe, I hate feeling all girly. So definitely not me.
I just had this discussion with our therapist (yes we go for couples therapy) and she made a very good point…
Swallow your pride, let go of the ego and ASK for the hug, kiss, words you need to hear…