Exactly how candid are your conversations?

In a world that is constantly changing, under strain and with people working in abnormally stressful environments, you often find that corporates send their teams to workshops in order to master EQ, communications and other skills. With so many personal development areas to focus on, the one area we often ignore is how to have candid conversations with others.

Group work to discuss issues

Group work to discuss issues

So I found myself sitting in one of ‘those’ workshops today and while we engaged in insightful conversation and at times, quite emotional sharing, it was only when I got home and read some of my notes that I realised just how powerful some of the statements I had written down were. You don’t need to be in my workshop to use these statements and make them relevant in your life:

  • Self-awareness enables us to respond vs. react.
  • Inquiring brings out the other person’s view.
  • Waiting to talk is not listening.
  • People change and forget to tell one another (and even themselves).
  • Reality clashes with plans.
  • People are uncomfortable with real.
  • I’m going to show up as ‘myself’. Show people who I am.
  • Be here! Right now, in this moment.
  • Know who I am and what I am about in all my conversations.
  • Keep reminding yourself daily of what outcome you want in life.
  • No one is able to keep up with the level of change – protect your immune systems. You only have one.
  • Why is it so easy to disappoint yourself, but not other people?
  • Perceptions = Reality.
  • In every conversation, there’s my story, your story and our story.

The final message of the day was finding that balance in life/work (keeping up with those friggin walkers!). It could be gym, a run after work, walking the dogs, a good meal or even a favourite TV show. But give back, both to your body and your mind. Remember to reward yourself. You deserve it!

I encourage you to read my list again and pick out that one relevant statement that speaks to you and make that change!